Who you Have to Invite to your Wedding (Even when you Don’t Want To!)

December 8th, 201011:44 am


Who you Have to Invite to your Wedding (Even when you Don’t Want To!)

Your wedding day should leave you surrounded with all of the people who you love and care for the most, and who love and care for you too, right?  Unfortunately this isn’t always the case.  A lot of the brides and grooms feel obligated to invite certain people, or certain people tend to simply invite themselves along believing that they are some how “special” or separate from the guest list that has been laid out by the bride and groom.  Here’s how you can try to deal with these wedding day disruptors so that the drama is kept to a minimum.

The Drunk Family Member

We will start with the toughest person first, the drunk family member.  No matter who they are, if they are a blood relative of yours or if they have married into the family, you can’t ban them from attending your wedding.  You know that when this particular person has had a few too many they tend to act out either aggressively, or foolishly, or… unpredictably.

A good idea to try and keep this person under control is to actually sit them down next to someone who is going to be responsible for them. For example, if it is an uncle, you should sit him down right next to either your aunt or to your father (or to whomever’s brother he is at the wedding).  They will then be responsible for the babysitting duties.

The Uninvited Child

So you wanted to have a childless wedding.  You thought that this was understood by everyone in the wedding party, but you discover you are sadly mistaken when your sister shows up with her 4 year old daughter, your niece, in tow.  So what do you do?

You can either hire on a babysitter in advance, anticipating that such a thing may occur, or you can simply tell your sister that she has to look after her child, not you.  Make it clear that no one else is responsible for the child, and put it out of your mind for the rest of the night.

The Weird Boyfriends (or Girlfriends)

You have invited certain people along who you love and adore, but that does not mean that you will necessarily love their mate.  This is a tough one, because even if you don’t appreciate her choice in a man, or his choice in a woman, that is still who they have chosen to date.  So where do you put him on your wedding day?

If the boyfriend (or girlfriend) is one of those in the wedding party, then you can sit your maid of honor next to you, the best man on the other side of your groom, and then spread the wedding party and their dates out further away from you.  So if you find someone’s date extra annoying, at least they won’t be in your direct presence.

TIP:  You may also want to consider setting up a table for every person on the bridal party’s dates, claiming that there just isn’t enough room at the head table for their date to sit with you all.

Categories: Invitations