The Wedding Invitation Faux Pas

December 6th, 20108:28 pm


The Wedding Invitation Faux Pas

When writing your wedding invitations, there are some things that you should do, and some things that you definitely should NOT do.  For most brides and grooms, this is going to be their first time writing up a wedding invitation, so it can be a bit confusing s to what you should be writing in them.  Here are some of the worst and most common of the wedding invitation faux pas that you should avoid.

The “NO KIDS ALLOWED” Invitations

So you don’t want to bother with having someone watch the children, hire on children entertainers, and purchase separate kids meals on your wedding day.  That’s understandable.  The problem that most brides and grooms make is that they get the wording wrong.  If you do not word the “no children allowed” rule appropriately, you risk insulting parents and, as a result, they won’t come to your wedding.

One of the easiest ways is to not mention the children on the wedding invitation.  This traditionally means that they are not invited, but not everyone will catch on to your hint.  Another way to tactfully go about not inviting the children is to not include the children’s names on the RSVP cards.  This may still result in parents tacking their children’s names onto the RSVP card, in which case you can simply call them up and explain that no kids are allowed at your wedding.

Include the Whole Family

So let’s say that you are allowing children at the wedding.  Great!  Then contrary to not including their name on the invitation and the RSVP card, make sure that you do include their names.  The invitation shouldn’t be made out to only “Mr. and Mrs. Brown”, but rather “Mr. and Mrs. Brown, Joe Brown, Emma Brown,” etc.  Another rule is that for any family with children over 18, they should receive their own invitations.  They are adults at that point after all, so even if they are still living with their parents you should respect them as separate adults.

You Want Monetary Gifts

Most couples these days have moved in with one another long before the wedding day, so they tend to have most of the house wares they need.  Even if this is the case, you cannot say outright on your invitation that you are not accepting boxed gifts and only want money as a gift.  That is just tactless and rude.  As a matter of fact, including any sort of registry on the invitation itself can be considered rude.  Remember, even if you make a registry, no one is obligated to give you a gift; a gift is a gift, a present that is given out of kindness.

The best way to go about receiving monetary gifts is to tell a couple of friends (such as your maid of honor or even your parents) and then hope that they will spread the word.  When people ask these people what to give you, they will simply tell them, “Oh, I think they’d prefer the money”.  Of course, there will be those guests who really want to get you an actual present, so you may still end up with a coffee maker or two.

Categories: Invitations