The Pregnant Bridesmaid

December 7th, 20106:49 pm


The Pregnant Bridesmaid

Some brides have a hard time considering their pregnant friend to be a bridesmaid or a maid of honor, but this doesn’t necessarily need to be a reason to not ask a good friend to be an important part of your special day.  Here are some things to think about when asking your pregnant girlfriend to be your maid of honor or a bridesmaid.

There will be Limitations

Pregnancy is tough for a lot of women, which means that your girlfriend may also be having a tough time with it.  Bridesmaids and maids of honor are expected to do a lot, such as researching and making appointments with vendors, going to events with you, coming along on visits to different vendors you’re’ interested in, and throwing wedding-related parties.  You will need to be sensitive to the fact that she is probably a lot more tired these days than she was pre-pregnancy, that she may be under added stress as when is trying to plan for her own baby, and that she may not be able to physically keep up with you.  Hobbling along with an extra 30 to 50 pounds on your body is no easy feat!  For this reason, make sure that she does have a chair that she can sit in if she is going to be standing during your entire ceremony.  Chances are she will need to take a seat after 30 minutes or so.

What about Clothing?

A pregnant bridesmaid means having to make some different clothing choices.  If a woman is any where past 4 months pregnant, she will probably be at least a couple sizes larger than she was pre-pregnancy.  To try and accommodate a pregnant bridesmaid, try to select a dress for her and your other bridesmaids that have an empire waist and a more giving skirt.  Tight and form-fitting dresses shouldn’t even be considered in these situations, unless your pregnant bridesmaid is alright with having a different style of dress from the other bridesmaids in attendance.  After all, everyone who is attending the ceremony will definitely understand her need for a more free-flowing and looser dress!

Destination Weddings

If you are planning a destination wedding, depending how far along your bridesmaid will be, it may not even be possible for her to attend your wedding.  Many women are not allowed to fly after 7 or 8 months into their pregnancy, meaning that your bridesmaid may be forced to stay home.  If this is something you are planning, make sure you ask your friend if she will be able to come (never assume she will or won’t be able to make it) and ask if she needs any special accommodations to come along with you.

Don’t Forget to Ask Her about Her Pregnancy

Yes, it’s your wedding and it’s your big day, but a pregnant bridesmaid also has a lot going on in her life too.  Remember to always ask your pregnant bridesmaid about what she’s doing, how she’s feeling, and what she’s experiencing with her pregnancy.  You want to make sure that you make her and this upcoming life change an important consideration too.

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