How do I Make a Wedding Toast?

November 29th, 20106:09 am


How do I Make a Wedding Toast?

The most nerve wracking part about a wedding may very well not be walking down the aisle and standing in front of a lot of people, it may be the toast that you are expected to make at the reception!  If you are stating to sweat it and aren’t sure where to start with your toast, you’ve come to the right place.

Write it Down

Rather than become frazzled about whether your toast will be too sentimental, not funny enough, or a complete bore, write it down.  Keep in mind that this is your opportunity to let the bride and groom, as well as their friends and family, know just how much you love them both and wish them well.  This is your chance to truly honor the couple, so be sure that you don’t leave the toast until the very last minute either.  You want your toast to be:

  • Personal
  • Sweet
  • Short

Be tasteful (don’t talk about “that one night you and so-and-so got really drunk”) and don’t include any remarks on someone’s ex boyfriend or girlfriend.  Include a fond memory you have had with the bride, the groom, or both.

Practice makes Perfect

Once you have written your toast, read it aloud a few times to really get the feel for how you want to present it to everyone.  Not everyone can speak as well on the spot as a celebrity or a politician, so don’t be too concerned about memorizing it perfectly well.

To help you on that day, write down key notes on index or recipe cards and bring them along!  This is especially good for anyone who is worried about their public speaking abilities.  Try to write down ideas rather than direct quotes from the toast you wrote out, such as, “mention the first time you met the bride” or “talk about that fateful day in 1999”.

It will also help you a lot to actually get in front of a mirror, grab a timing device, and watch yourself as you recite your toast.  Start the timer once you begin your toast, and pay attention to the intonations you are placing on certain words and phrases.  Be conscientious of your facial expressions and body language.  Once you’re done, stop the timer and make sure it’s within 2-5 minutes.

There will be Other Toasters

There’s a good chance that it won’t just be you who wants to and will be toasting the bride and groom.  Sometimes the order is pre-arranged by the bride and groom, but if it hasn’t been arranged then it would be a good idea to quickly talk to the wedding party and see who is going to be toasting, and arrange a sort of ‘schedule’ from there.  The traditional “toasting” order is as follows (though this order is not so much kept in more modern weddings):

  • The best man
  • Fathers
  • The groom
  • The bride
  • The maid of honor
  • The mothers
  • Any other friends or relatives
Categories: Reception