Wedding Lush » Showers and Parties Wedding Ideas & Wedding Tips Thu, 28 Apr 2011 08:51:43 +0000 en hourly 1 The Engagement: How Soon is Too Soon? Tue, 07 Dec 2010 21:35:39 +0000 galleca You love each other. You have both known it since you gazed across the room at one another. You both have felt that 'heat' and that 'passion' from day one. You have been going strong for months now when your other friends have all dumped their mates. This one has got to be meant for you' right?

There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to when the appropriate time to become engaged is. For each person, they will 'feel' that the time is right at a different time. Some men and women feel that it is more than appropriate to become engaged after 6 months. Some swear by the 1 year point. Some say you have to move in first, while others will tell you that 'moving in' ruins just how special the marriage will be. So how soon is too soon to be engaged?

One statistic that was reported recently was that the longer that a couple dates prior to marriage, the better chance they have at avoiding divorce. The concept behind this is simple: the longer you spend with someone, the better you know them, hence the better equipped you are to face any bumps on the road along the way. This is a point that really cannot be contested, so it is something that you should take into consideration when planning or even thinking about becoming engaged. Relationships are fantastic at the beginning. Sometimes even the first 18 months are loaded with romance and passion. But once one or both partners have to turn their focus to other things other than their partner, such as a career or children, things can become incredibly strained and difficult.

Now here comes a popular question amongst couples: is an engagement and even a marriage more successful if we move in beforehand' While it can be thought to be sensible to move in with someone and see how they are in their own personal environment prior to marriage, it is really more about your faith in the person and communication skills that will keep the relationship going. If you have the ability to both talk and think things out together, compromise, and be respectful, you can truly overcome any obstacle out there. You also have to be set on the idea that you and your partner are not getting divorced under any circumstances.

So how long should you date someone before you become engaged' There's a good chance that 6 months is too short of a time to really now someone enough to make a life-long commitment to someone, as is 12 months. Most couples who date for any where from 3-5 years or longer have the best chance at making a marriage last, but remember that it really is how both you and your partner handle conflict and challenges together. Two people will not always get along. The articles you may read online or in popular magazines about relationships do not always apply to you. Recognize both you and your spouse as to separate entities with a unique relationship that you will work on until the very end.

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How to Survive His Bachelor Party Tue, 07 Dec 2010 19:53:38 +0000 galleca Thanks to the television and the movies, brides have become increasingly leery of their man's big bachelor party. Brides all have these visions of strippers and wild, crazy, drunken parties that have just gotten a bit too out of control ' or very out of control. But is that really how it is?

Different Types of Bachelor Parties

Not all bachelor parties involve naked women, cigars, and a whole lot of alcohol. A lot of guys are opting for fun outdoor trips that may involve snowboarding or fishing, and they all play pranks on one another (and no, no other women are involved). Some are choosing other options, like going to the casino to gamble. Do not immediately assume that your man is hitting up the strip cub.


Make sure that you let him know that you are uncomfortable with the idea of him doing certain things at his bachelor party. After all, all brides have heard the horror story about how that one guy decided to get a bit 'too wild' at his bachelor party, which screwed up his chance of getting married to his bride.

It's not fair to nag him, but it is fair to say, 'thinking about you having a stripper dance for you makes me very unhappy and uncomfortable'. Do not forbid it; this will only make him feel all the more compelled to do it. Your loved one wants you to be happy and he doesn't want to feel guilty about doing something that you don't like, so he will feel more obligated to shoot down any stripping activities if you express your feelings rather than ban an activity.

Let him Party

Here's another note on the whole 'do not ban your man' from doing what he wants topic: let him have his party. It's not fair to ban this event which has become a much looked forward to event in a man's (and woman's) life. After all, if your husband-to-be banned you from having a bachelorette party, what would you say? Chances are, most of us ladies would scoff, laugh, and have it anyways. Trust your guy and let him have some fun before your big day together.

Now you have yours too!

Rather than become immersed in what your man may potentially doing for his bachelor party, it's time to start focusing on your own and plan our own bachelorette party details! With the help of your maid of honor and bridesmaids, start thinking about how you want your party to pan out. Let your partner know that what ever rules he has are just as applicable to you, so you are allowed to do just what he does. You should also therefore be banned from doing what ever it is that he isn't allowed to do too. Agree on the rules, shake hands, and make sure you two have a load of fun! After all, this is a once in a life time event!

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The Engagement Party: What Are They? Tue, 07 Dec 2010 18:30:06 +0000 galleca Engagement parties, though somewhat more rare then they used to, are still often thrown by the bride (or her maid of honor) in order to properly announce and celebrate her new engagement. There are some good things about throwing an engagement party, such as:

  • An engagement party is a fun way to tell everyone, 'Hey! I'm getting married!'
  • It's an excellent way to have your friends and family meet for the first time, so that they will be familiar with one another during the ceremony and reception
  • It's an excuse to throw a big bash and have a good time with your nearest and dearest loved ones

Engagement parties can be a difficult thing to plan, however, since you do have to throw it relatively soon after you do first become engaged. This means that you will have to have a good sense of just who you are inviting your wedding quite early as anyone you invite should be included in your wedding, even if they are just a guest.

Another drawback to the engagement party is that it is just another added expense on top of al of the other wedding expenses you will be incurring. If you are planning on getting married quite soon after your engagement (let's say within 6 months) then it may be hard to have two big parties so close to one another.

Who do you Invite?

You can invite almost anyone to your engagement party who you would like to be a part of your wedding in some way. Most of the time, the parents of the bride host the engagement party, though it is becoming all the more common for her closest friends to set it up and arrange it for her. In some cases, the bride herself will arrange and host her own engagement party.

You will want to invite people from both the bride's family and the groom's family. This allows both sides of the family to become acquainted with one another, and they may even start putting their heads together when it comes to planning (and possibly paying for) your wedding.

When do I Throw an Engagement Party?

Most engagement parties are thrown within a month or two of the engagement, or within a year of the wedding date. This allows you time to somewhat get an appropriate guest list together, as well as think about what kind of engagement party you would like it to be. You can make it a rather formal affair, or you can make it a brunch, or you can even have it be an all out bash and dance the night away. It's really the bride's personal taste and style that dictates the kind of engagement party that is thrown.

What about Gifts?

It is considered rude to ask for presents for your engagement party, and you should also not expect guests to bring them along. Chances are that a few guests may bring a gift or two, but do not expect anything besides appetizers, desserts and wine being brought.

TIP: If anyone does bring a gift, make sure you send them a 'thank you' card.

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Deciding on your Bridal Party Tue, 07 Dec 2010 14:01:01 +0000 galleca As soon as you announced your engagement (or let's be honest, as soon as your new groom-to-be let on he was going to propose) your friends have been sitting on the sidelines idly waiting to be asked to be a part of your wedding party. Though this can be one of the most exciting parts for your friends, there may be a friend or two who will be disappointed in the fact that they were not invited to be a part of your bridal party.

But let's rewind a bit: just who are you going to invite to be part of your bridal party' If you have a lot of sisters, female cousins, sisters-in-law and girlfriends, choosing just who is going to be the maid of honor or a bridesmaid can quickly induce a massive migraine. So who do you choose?

The Maid of Honor

The maid of honor is the greatest honor that anyone of the entire wedding party will receive (apart from the best man, of course). The maid of honor, for a lot of rides, is a 'no-brainer'. A best friend who has been through it all with the bride, or a trusted family member such as a sister or a close cousin, are almost always the maid of honor. The maid of honor will have a lot to do for your wedding, both prior to the day and on the day-of, so you want to be sure that the person you choose is someone who loves you, who is looking out for your best interests, and who is reliable.

NOTE: It's not uncommon these days for a bride to ask her mother to be her matron of honor.

The Bridesmaids

Here's where things tend to get a big foggier, especially if you do have a lot of trusted, close friends who you love and would like to be a part of your big day. The most common amount of bridesmaids that are seen at any wedding are around 4, including the bridesmaid, though it can go up to 6 if you have a larger wedding (over 200 people). Deciding who is a bridesmaid may come down to:

  • Who have you known the longest?
  • Who is the most reliable and dependable of the bunch?
  • Who has expressed desire to be a part of the bridesmaid party?
  • Who has experience in planning weddings?

Before you begin planning a wedding, it's hard to understand just how much planning and organization is required. You will need bridesmaids who you can depend on, who are available to help you out where you need them, and who are supportive and helpful. You do not need a bridesmaid who wants to be a bridesmaid simply so she can be a part of the 'big show'.

The Flower Girl

If you have a daughter or daughters, then the choice is easy. If you have numerous nieces or younger cousins, the choice can be hard. Try to ask each of the girls if they have any interest, and if any do, consider having them as a flower girl. Who said you had to stop at only one?

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Roles of the Ladies in your Bridal Party Mon, 06 Dec 2010 14:47:52 +0000 galleca If you have never had a wedding before, you probably aren't entirely sure just what everyone is supposed to be doing for you both before and on your big day. Here is a guide that will help you delegate duties to the different people of your wedding party:

Maid of Honor

The maid of honor has the heftiest duty of all: to be the first line of support for the bride. The maid of honor helps with a number of different tasks, from shopping to addressing invitations to helping with the seating chart and holding the bride and groom's rings on that special day. Maid of honors also are responsible for ensuring that the bridesmaids are kept in the loop, that the dresses for the bridesmaids are fitted and adjusted properly, and they are to attend and schedule most of the wedding-related events (such as the wedding shower and bachelorette party). Your maid of honor is your go-to person and is the first person you are able to ask a favor of if no one else is able to help.


Bridesmaids are like the support staff for the maid of honor. Apart from paying for her own dress, hair and make up on the day, she is also expected to give a gift to the bride. She is to be part of the receiving line during the wedding, and she is to attend all sorts of wedding events that happen both before and after the wedding day.

Bridesmaids are quite beneficial when it comes to asking for a second opinion on something, or coming up with ideas for your wedding. If you need help with any do it yourself projects, both they and the maid of honor are the first people to ask.

The Mother of the Bride

The mother of the bride is there to be the common sense of the group. Bounce ideas off of her and see if she agrees with them; if she doesn't, why not' Include your mom in as much of the wedding planning as possible, such as dress shopping and seeking out a venue for your ceremony and reception. Some brides delegate the task of arranging the guest list to their moms, especially if there is a lot of extended family your mother is close to while you may not be.

The Mother of the Groom

The mother of the groom usually takes somewhat of a backseat to the mother of the bride, but feel free to bring her along for dress shopping and venue selections as well, especially if you are close or if she has expressed interest. You want to keep her involved in what's going on, especially if she does not have any other daughters in which she may be able to experience the wedding planning process with.

The Flower Girl

The flower girl is there to charm the crowd prior to you walking down the aisle. If she is outspoken and would like to address the crowd, it's an honor to allow her to say a few words to both you and your groom before the dinner. She may have prepared a little prayer, poem, or speech for you.

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How to Celebrate your Engagement Mon, 06 Dec 2010 11:39:14 +0000 galleca Becoming engaged is a very special time in every bride- and groom-to-be's life. After all, there's a good chance that this will be the only time that you both will be engaged, so you should enjoy it and celebrate it! Here are some fun ways in which you can celebrate your new engagement.

The Thrilling Weekend Away

Why not really celebrate your engagement with your beau and take off for the weekend' Pack up your bags and head out to a fancy hotel a couple hours out of town, private cottage, cabin, or a B&B for some R&R. You may want to consider inviting your close family and friends to celebrate, or you can keep it just between you and your fianc.

The Backyard BBQ

If you don't have the time to run off for 48 hours to spend time alone with your fianc, you may want to consider throwing a good old fashioned backyard barbeque! This is a great way to have family and friends from both you and your groom's side to meet and mingle prior to the big day. Try to set up your food so that it is a buffet-style barbeque (this will help get people talking to one another) and offer French fries, hot dogs, burgers, potato salad, and ice cold beverages. You can finish off the evening with a BBQ-style dessert, like s'mores or roasted marshmallows.

The Sophisticated Cocktail Party

Cocktail parties are always appreciated by guests, as they have a touch of sophistication and elegance. You can either hold the cocktail party in your own home, or you can try throwing it at a trendy hotel downtown, at a high end restaurant, or even a private lounge. To really make the day special, ask the bartenders if they will be able to make a special 'signature' martini or cocktail for you two.

The Charming Garden Party

Garden parties are a classic choice for celebrating an engagement. These are particularly wonderful if you choose to throw an engagement party brunch on a warm and balmy spring day. You can throw the garden party at a local park, your backyard, or any restaurant that has a courtyard available. You can always try to locate a botanical garden in your area and see if they have a courtyard or even a restaurant you can use to throw your garden party!

The Sun-Kissed Beach Party

Is there anything more fun than spending an afternoon or an evening with your close friends and family at the beach' If you happened to get engaged in the middle of summer, break out your coolers and the portable barbeques, because you're throwing a beach engagement party! You can cook up foods as simple as burgers and hot dogs and pass around some cold beverages to celebrate. To put a really great end to the day, finish it off with a bonfire by the water. Now that is going to be one beach party that your guests will never forget!

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Gifts to Give the Bridal Party Mon, 06 Dec 2010 09:11:22 +0000 galleca They have been with you throughout this entire wedding planning process. They have made the calls, sent the emails, and helped budget your money. They have been there during your highest of highs and lowest of lows during these past several weeks, months, and maybe even years! For all maids of honor and bridesmaids out there, a gift to show your appreciation for them is certainly in order. But' what should you get?

Pay for their Stuff

One of the quickest gifts that you can give your bridal party is to simply pay for their wedding related expenses. This can be paying for their dresses, and/or paying for their accessories, or you can pay for their hair and makeup to be done on the day of the wedding. Follow it up with a personal thank you card from you and you're set.

A Meal Out

Some brides want to show their appreciation by taking their girls out for breakfast, lunch, or dinner either the day before the wedding or shortly after they return from their honeymoon. It doesn't have to be at the best restaurant in town (unless you can afford it), but it should be at a place you know they will all like and appreciate.


Chances are that you have known each person in your bridal party for a considerable amount of time. Why not make them a scrapbook that shows your life together as friends' Start paging through those old photo albums and yearbooks and bring out some of the best of the best pictures you have with one another. Your bridal party will be thrilled and will love the opportunity to sit down with you and relive those memories.

WARNING: Scrap booking can and will take up a whole lot of your time, so if you do plan on doing this, make sure you allot a fair amount of time, such as 40 or more hours, to the cause.

Robes & Comfy Clothes

A popular item that brides get for their bridal party are beautiful, terry cloth robes. What woman doesn't like to step out of the bath or shower and wrap herself in a fluffy, warm robe' You can also have these personalized with their name or a design that may be of some significance to them. Throw in a pair of comfy slippers and a wedding-related comedy DVD and you're set!


Earrings, bracelets and necklaces are always an appreciated piece by every maid of honor and bridesmaid. You need not buy something as expensive as a Tiffany's bracelet, but try to go for jewelry that is made of real metal so that it will stand the test of time. Better yet, you can present this gift to them prior to the wedding day or on the morning of and suggest that they wear it on your special day.

Coffee Lovers

Coffee lovers get a real 'kick' out of receiving new mugs and delicious coffees to try. Add a gift card to their favorite coffee joint and they will surely be appreciative.

TIP: You can also find portable coffee mugs that allow you to insert pictures and other memorable items. If you don't have time to scrapbook, this is a great alternative.

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Five Great Bachelorette Party Ideas Mon, 06 Dec 2010 08:59:23 +0000 galleca If you are the maid of honor or one of the bridesmaids, you are probably scratching your head and trying to come up with a fun bachelorette party idea for your bride-to-be. Here are some ideas that modern brides are doing these days that are a bit more creative than dancing the night away at a club or visiting a strip club:

The Camp Out

If you have a bride-to-be who loves the great outdoors, grab your sleeping bags, your tent and some marshmallows to roast and set off on a great camping adventure! Camping with the entire bridal party will allow you ladies to get some rest and relaxation, and nothing is more fun than gossiping and making wedding plans right next to an open fire.

If you want to keep it a little bit less 'outdoorsy', rent a cabin in the woods and enjoy your little getaway together.

The Spa Day

Who doesn't like to be pampered' Arrange for a day or two away at a fancy spa in town or a short while away. If you arrange this close enough to the wedding day, then the entire bridal party can get their nails done, their toes done, waxed, and even get a well deserved massage after all of that stressful wedding planning.

Check into a few different spas that the bride may be interested in and look into if there are any group discount rates, and see what sort of packages they have available.

TIP: If your bride does want to go dancing or do something in the evening, having a spa day is the perfect way to kick off the bachelorette party.

The Pajama Party

So what if you haven't been to a sleep over since you were 13 years old' Throw a sophisticated pajama party with delicious cocktails, sweet treats, and tons of great girlie movies that you know everyone is going to love. Throw in some sexy lingerie presents and gag gifts for the bride, and she is sure to have a good time.

The Tea Party

So your bride doesn't want to be up at all hours of the night partying away. Then it may be a good idea to throw a bachelorette tea party for the most stately bride. You can arrange a bachelorette tea party at your home or that of one of the bridesmaids, or you can find a restaurant with a garden court to have it at. Make sure there are plenty of tasty tiny sandwiches, tea, and delectable desserts and your party is sure to be a hit!

The Fun Park Party

If you happen to be fortunate enough to have a theme park or an amusement park nearby, why not plan to have the bachelorette party for the bride who loves a good thrill' Arrange to have a limo swing by the bride-to-be's place and head off for a day of roller coasters, merry-go-rounds and fun games. Make sure you load up on the amusement park fare, like corn dogs and cotton candy!

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Choosing the Bridal Party: The Math Behind it All Mon, 06 Dec 2010 06:26:36 +0000 galleca There really can be a method behind that madness that is choosing just how many bridesmaids, groomsmen, and ushers you will need to pull off your big day and keep it looking balanced and harmonized. If you're wondering just how many people to put into your bridal party, here are some of the answers to the most commonly asked wedding party questions:

How many Bridesmaids can I Have?

Let's start off by saying that this is your wedding, and you can do absolutely anything you want to o your special day. You can have 10 bridesmaids, or you can have 0 ' it's really all up to you!

The average wedding tends to have any where from 3 to 6 bridesmaids, with 4 being the average number. The groom usually then has the same number of groomsmen to balance out the equation.

What if there is an Imbalance in Numbers of Bridesmaids to Groomsmen (or Vice Versa)?

Though traditionally the number of bridesmaids matches the number of groomsmen, you can change it up a bit if you'd like. For instance, one method that is becoming increasingly popular is having a 1:2 ratio of bridesmaids to groomsmen, or groomsmen to bridesmaids. So let's say you have 3 bridesmaids, and 6 groomsmen. As they walk down the aisle, the bridesmaid can have one groomsman on her left side, and one on her right side. While some brides will fret about her wedding party looking imbalanced as they stand and say their 'I do's', no one at the wedding really cares at all!

TIP: If it is a big concern for you, you can kindly ask your sweetie to limit his groomsmen numbers and have the 'extra groomsmen' be ushers or do something else special on your day, like read a special poem or speech for you both.

How Many Ushers should we have?

Again, you can have as many ushers as you would like, but the general rule is that you should assign one usher for every 45 to 50 guests that you will have in attendance. Even the best of ushers won't be able to command all of your guests or answer all of their questions about seating arrangements, so make sure that there are at least 2 or 3 ushers about to help guide and direct people to where they need to go.

How Many Family Members should be Included?

This is really all up to you, though typically the sisters or brothers are all included in some way. For some brides and grooms, their brother or sister is an immediate choice for being a groomsmen or maid of honor. You can either choose to include any other siblings in your wedding party.

Here's the gray area: what about step siblings' If you are close to your step family and your step siblings, by all means include them just as if they were your blood relatives! It's a nice gesture to have your step siblings also be part of the wedding party.

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Top Bachelor Party Ideas Mon, 29 Nov 2010 12:56:24 +0000 galleca

So your buddy is about to tie the knot and you want to give him one last opportunity to just be himself, an unattached single guy out on the town. There are fortunately a lot of ways you can have fun with this soon to be ex-bachelor, and to maybe humiliate him a bit along the way. Here are some of the best ways you can throw a bachelor party for the groom-to-be:


The most exciting way to start a bachelor gambling party is to invite the groom and his friends out to either Las Vegas or Atlantic City, depending on whether you are on the West or East coast (or if you are on a different continent, think about the 'gambling capitals' in your area). Nothing beats a quick trip to these renowned gambling cities. The slot machines, the girls, the lively night life and the best food available to you 24/7 ' not to mention a ton of free alcohol that will undoubtedly loosen the groom right on up definitely makes these locations a great choice for bachelor parties. You can book a cheap flight to any gambling destination for later at night, book some rooms at a cheaper hotel, party hard and leave the next day if necessary (or stay a day or two extra to give the groom a chance to recover).

Yacht Trips

Guys seem to love the open area and open waters, so why not rent out a yacht for one night for your best friend' You may need to provide the drinks, but you can hire on a catering service to serve appies or even a full course meal if you want to. Make sure you buy some bottles of champagne so that you can really toast your groom in style!


The classic way of celebrating a bachelor's upcoming wedding is to take him out for some fine cigars. This can either be a separate event, or you can incorporate it into one of your pre-existing bachelor party plans.


If your best bud is a golfer, then taking him out for a day of golfing is a dream come true. The best part is that his bride-to-be can't say no! A great follow up to a day of golfing is a great dinner at a steakhouse, eat like the kings you are and then follow up with a night on the town if the groom isn't too exhausted from the golfing.


Should the groom be a fan of the club scene and dancing, then take him out for a whole night rave extravaganza! He can dance his heart out and harmlessly dance with other girls (no touching!) while he's still single. If you are going to visit a local club, inquire about their VIP rooms and any VIP services. Nothing will blow the mind of your groom more than having champagne brought up to him while he sits in the VIP room of his all-time favorite club! The only drawback to this is that it can get rather pricey, so don't feel bad about asking the other groomsmen to chip in a bit prior to planning a bachelor party.

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