Wedding Lush » Planning & Ideas https://weddinglush.com Wedding Ideas & Wedding Tips Wed, 07 Mar 2012 04:48:16 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Your Top Wedding Cake FAQs https://weddinglush.com/your-top-wedding-cake-faqs/ https://weddinglush.com/your-top-wedding-cake-faqs/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:40:41 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1551 If you have found yourself stressing out over your wedding cake, take a minute and relax! These top wedding cake FAQs have got you covered:

Q: When should I start looking for a baker?

A: If you are looking for a quality cake baker, than you should give the baker a minimum of 4 months notice prior to your wedding day. That being said, if you want one of the hottest and most renowned cake bakers in town, expect to give the baker at least 6 months notice, if not an entire year. Good bakers are booked up quickly, so move fast so you can get your top choice!

Q: Do wedding cakes survive the summer heat?

A: The best thing to do to ensure that your cake will last during an outdoor summer wedding is to choose a heavier type of frosting, like fondant. Another important factor to whether or not your cake will survive is how long it is left out prior to when it is going to be cut and served. If it is a warm day, make sure that the cake is not left out for more than 2 hours; otherwise the icing and any embellishments may begin to melt and fall off.

Q: What if I want to keep the first tier for our 1 year wedding anniversary?

A: Keeping the top tier for your first wedding anniversary shouldn't be a problem. Make sure you let your caterer know that you would like to keep the top tier, and ask that they wrap it up in plastic wrap and then place it in an airtight baggie. Once you get home, put it into an appropriate-sized Tupperware container and store it in the freezer

TIP: Do not wrap up your cake in foil as foil may not protect your cake against freezer burn.

Q: How should I display the cake at the wedding reception?

A: As a general rule, circular cakes are displayed on a round table and square or rectangular cakes are displayed on a rectangular table. The table tends to be placed right at the entrance to the reception so everyone can see your beautiful cake before it is served. The linens that are on the table should be chosen in colors and designs that will truly compliment the appearance of the cake.

Q: When do you cut the cake?

A: Traditionally, you would cut the cake near the end of the reception (this tends to be an hour or so after the dancing commences). Alternatively, you can cut the cake right at the very beginning of the reception after you make your grand entrance. The caterers can take the cake to the back and have it sliced up for dessert later in the evening.

Q: Should I serve another dessert with my cake?

A: This is really up to you. Some brides and grooms want to serve a little dessert with the cake to help dress up the cake. Others like to have alternative choices in case their guests don't like cake, or if they do happen to wait a long time after dinner to cut and serve the cake.

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When your Parents Disapprove of your Fianc https://weddinglush.com/when-your-parents-disapprove-of-your-fiance/ https://weddinglush.com/when-your-parents-disapprove-of-your-fiance/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:39:29 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1550 There can be nothing more troubling than when your own parents don't approve of the person who you have chosen to be 'the one'. Before you become upset and go on the defense, try to diffuse and sort out the situation.

Start off by trying to see your partner through their eyes. To many of us, the one we love can do no wrong (or almost no wrong). They seem perfect in every way! You love the same jokes, you enjoy the same movies, and you have the same points of view on many aspects of life. Sit down with your family and ask them exactly why they disapprove of your mate. Their reasoning will either reveal:

  • A misunderstanding: perhaps they misunderstood something about your mate, and you will be able to clear the air and set it straight
  • His or her shortcomings that they have seen but you perhaps haven't noticed or realized yet

It's important to take a look at these shortcomings and then decide if these are things that are even an issue with you, and if they are how you will be able to work through these in the future. Should something be brought up that you are not sure you are going to be able to handle, don't immediately call off your wedding. Sit down with your partner and talk it out.

TIP: It's important to also not harp on the things that may be said by your parents. Not everything is meant to be taken at face value. Parents may blurt out hurtful things that are not a true reflection of their feelings.

Another important step in dealing with parents who may not approve your mate is to be sure that you pay them extra attention and give them extra love. It's quite possible that your parents are only disapproving of your mate because they see it as your fianc 'taking you away' from them. Remind them that they are irreplaceable and that your fianc is going to be a great new addition at the table each Christmas and Thanksgiving.

Here's another tip that will save you a lot of heart ache: don't delay in confronting the issue. Once your parents say they disapprove, or once you hear through the grapevine that they do not approve of your mate, have a conversation. Ask them why they do not think your fianc is right for you. It may very well be that they simply pictured you with 'someone else', like a doctor or a lawyer or who knows who. The longer you allow you avoid this uncomfortable conversation, the worse the situation can be. The faster you dispel any myths about your mate, the faster you will be able to change an opinion before it perhaps becomes, to them, a fact.

Above all else, it's important that you stand by your fianc. You chose to spend the rest of your life with them for a reason. Don't let your mother, your father, or any other friend or relative sway you from the most important choice you will make in your entire life: who is to be your husband (or wife).

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What do I Write for my Wedding Vows? https://weddinglush.com/what-do-i-write-for-my-wedding-vows/ https://weddinglush.com/what-do-i-write-for-my-wedding-vows/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:34:40 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1546 Got a serious case of writers block' For a lot of bride and grooms-to-be, this is a terrifying experience most encounter when trying to write up their wedding vows. Some things to think about before starting are:

  • Are you permitted to have your own vows?
  • Will you both be writing your vows separately or together?
  • Decide what tone you want to use ' humorous, romantic, sentimental, etc.
  • Keep it under 1 minute in duration

It's also a good idea to flip through some photo albums and watch some videos of you both together to revive those great memories that may have become cluttered over the past couple of years since you have been dating. With that in mind, here's how you can start writing your vows:

1)'' Think about what came to mind when you first saw your fianc. An example of this could be, 'When I first saw you at ________ I knew _________.'

2)'' The first time you realized that you were in love with your fianc is another fond memory that your guests will love to hear. It's also a great opportunity to throw in a funny one liner! An example of this would be, 'I knew that I was in love with you when ___________.'

3)'' How has your view of the world changed' Undoubtedly, meeting this important person has changed your life. Think about new things you tried, new places you visited, or any new perceptions or wisdom you have gained. An example is, 'Before I met you I _________ but now I _________.'

4)'' What do you miss about your fianc when they are not there' Think about a time when you woke up in the morning and he or she wasn't there, or when he or she went on a trip out of town. Things that people often miss are a smile, a kiss, or even their dirty socks lying on the floor, reminding them that they are there.

5)'' If you're a music or movie buff, steal a line and use it in your vows. This is even better if you incorporate a song that you both enjoy. For instance, you can use Jack Johnson's 'You and Your Heart' in a line like, 'You and your heart are what make me happiest'.

6)'' Think about a funny experience that you two both shared and think about how it gave you a new perspective on them. For example, 'When I saw how happy you were laughing along with ________ I knew that you were crazy enough to spend the rest of your life with me.'

7)'' Are there common goals or values that you both share' Recognizing that common bond that holds you together is something that your partner and your guests will love to hear.

8)'' Is there something about your fianc that truly inspires you like no other' You can phrase this as, 'Your ________ has made me realize ________'.

9)'' A good way to conclude your vows is to think towards the future. Where do you see you both in 10 years time' 20 years' 50 years' State it in a way that it is something that you look forward to, such as 'I look forward to ________ as we ________.'

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Top Wedding Gripes your Guests will Have https://weddinglush.com/top-wedding-gripes-your-guests-will-have/ https://weddinglush.com/top-wedding-gripes-your-guests-will-have/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:30:38 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1542 Everyone will tell you that you have the most beautiful wedding, but behind the backs of many brides and grooms there are a lot of murmurings going on about what was done well and what was not done so well. Here are some guest 'tell all's' about what they hated about the weddings they have gone to recently.

Travel Time

Guests may tell you that they love your reception venue, but trust us, when they have to drive well over an hour to get there from the ceremony venue, they certainly aren't thinking about how 'lovely' it is. One of the top complaints from guests is the bride and groom having a reception that is miles and miles away from the wedding ceremony, and when the bride and groom don't bother to arrange transportation for everyone.

Time Lapse

Somewhat similar to the above complaint, many guests absolutely hate it when there is a long lapse between the ceremony and the reception unless the bride and groom are providing snacks and cocktails to their guests. If you are making your guests wait more than an hour or two between the ceremony and reception, and you are not providing food and drinks, you can expect to hear some griping after your wedding day.

Camera Time

If you have hired a videographer for your wedding, you may want to give him or her a heads up on who will probably want to be on camera, and who won't. All too many guests are bothered by the intrusive videographer who shoves his or her camera into the faces of guests and asks them if they have 'anything to say' to the bride and groom. Not only is this done during meal times or when a guest may have had 'one too many', but the guest also feels put on the spot and often is lost for words.

Inappropriate Songs

The bride and the groom have every right to choose songs for their wedding day, but just be prepared for some backlash from your guests. Modern songs, or songs with inappropriate lyrics, will be frowned upon by many people in attendance'? So before you put 'Baby Got Back' on your music list, take a moment to reconsider and think about how many people will see you, and everyone else, shaking their behinds to the music.

The Buffet

Who doesn't like options, right' Apparently some people don't! A lot of people go to a wedding expecting a classy sit-down meal, so when they find out that it is a buffet they feel it isn't 'classy' or 'sophisticated'. Some men and women are also shy about people seeing what they have selected to eat, or how large of a portion they may choose. Others are shy about going up for second or third helpings, so they will undoubtedly complain about that.

So guests will complain, guests will gripe, but they'll never tell it to your face. But hey, you only get married once, right' Make sure that you make the day your own and without any regrets!

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The Worst Wedding Nightmares https://weddinglush.com/the-worst-wedding-nightmares/ https://weddinglush.com/the-worst-wedding-nightmares/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:26:04 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1538 Afraid that your Uncle Bob or your little nephew Tommy may turn your day of wedded bliss into a nightmare' It can happen! Count your lucky stars that none of these wedding nightmares happen to you.

Too Much Booze'

Weddings are a time where the alcohol is usually flowing freely, which may bring out the more colorful and less desirable side of your otherwise wonderful family and friends. The alcohol was to blame when a San Franciscan bride had her sister and her aunt both decide that table top dancing would be a 'good idea'. One of them fell off, while the other toppled the table over on top of herself. The paramedics sure didn't find it hilarious, and neither did the bride.

Here's another common horror story from weddings: the 'under-agers' get their hands on some alcohol when no one's looking. A Colorado bride reported that her 14 year old nephew clearly had gotten into the liquor at the party and then proceeded to dance and strip in the middle of the dance floor. Worst of all, it was all caught on tape.

Every wedding has a toasting session, most of which all toasts are politely listened to, laughed with, and applauded at the end. Well, not for this one Vancouver family. While giving a toast, the groom's mother rudely had the microphone yanked away by the bride's mother. The bride's mother then proceeded to berate the groom's family, telling them that they were all 'going to hell'.

The Wedding Crashers

Anyone ever wondered if their ex had lingering feelings for them, or were upset to hear about their engagement' This one bride from Sydney found out the hard way. As the bride began to walk down the aisle, a 'strange man' flew out from behind her, bragged her from around the waist, and began to plead, 'Don't do this!' The bride and her family quickly recognized the fellow to be her ex boyfriend. He was escorted to the door and told never to return.

Another wedding crasher story that definitely haunts the memories of this bride and groom was the stripper crasher. In the middle of the first dance, a strange man broke in between the bride and groom, pushed them to the side, and proceeded to strip down to nothing in front of the wedding guests. When the song ended, he gathered up his clothing and bolted out of the room. To this day, no one at the wedding knows who he was!

The RSVPs

Brides and grooms get some rather odd requests on the RSVPs that they receive. The most common oddity is the special diet requests that they receive. A lot of guests request vegetarian meals or vegan meals, but other guests have also requested meals that follow the Atkin's diet, macrobiotic plans, and they have even asked how many 'points' this meal will count towards their Jenny Craig meal plan!

Another odd request: the pet. Some guests seem to just immediately assume that their guests are invited. A bride and groom from Essex thought that the groom's aunt was joking about bringing her dog as a 'guest' to the wedding; they found out 9 months later that she wasn't kidding when they found the dog sitting on a chair at the dinner table.

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The Biggest Wedding Color Mistakes https://weddinglush.com/the-biggest-wedding-color-mistakes/ https://weddinglush.com/the-biggest-wedding-color-mistakes/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 15:54:52 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1533 You have dreamt about it, known about it, and planned it out right up to this very day. You think you know what colors you want for your wedding, but once you begin putting the plans into motion, you are beginning to have your doubts. For a lot of us brides and grooms, choosing appropriate wedding colors and wedding color combinations is no easy task. If you're looking to avoid some of the most common and worst wedding color mistakes out there, read on:

Using Too Many Colors

One of the most common errors that brides and grooms make when choosing wedding colors is that they just choose too darn many of them! Having a rainbow of different colors and shades at your wedding will only cheapen the feel and confuse your guests. Simplicity is key when it comes to wedding colors, so stick to four colors, maximum. If you want a more under toned appearance, then you can choose for a few various shades of the same color, but make sure that the different shades are only slightly different.

The most popular way to incorporate colors into your wedding day is to stick with two different colors, both being symbolic of you and your partner. This is a particularly attractive look for anyone who is going for that bolder, monochromatic look. A deep purple with a cream tone, or a bright turquoise with black, are two popular choices.

The Trend is Not Always Right

Every year there are brand new trendy color combinations out there for brides to choose from, but don't let a trend dictate how your wedding day is going to appear. Make sure that you choose colors that suit your own tastes. Think about colors that make you happy, that hold any symbolic meaning, and that make you feel relaxed. Look around at your surroundings and think about what colors are in your favorite room, or what shades and tones you find in your favorite places.

Balance your Tones

When choosing your wedding colors, you have to think about creating an appropriate balance between the colors. For example, having two bright and bold colors as your wedding colors will probably be too overwhelming and 'busy' for your guests, while choosing white with a pale pink and a pale lavender will be far too understated to make any impact on your guests. Make sure you create a balance between a bold color and a lighter, understated color. The goal should be to really annunciate your favorite color, and provide a secondary color to compliment the color, but not overwhelm or challenge it for attention.

Don't be Predictable

So you're having a wedding during the holiday season. That doesn't mean that your dcor has to be green, red and white. Same goes for fall weddings ' who says you need to have earth tones' Try to keep your guests on your goes by choosing different color combinations and be creative!

The most important thing to remember is that you choose colors that both you and your groom love. Remember, these colors will forever be captured in your wedding photos and videos, so choose wisely and choose colors you know you won't regret.

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The Best “Groom’s Cake” Ideas https://weddinglush.com/the-best-grooms-cake-ideas/ https://weddinglush.com/the-best-grooms-cake-ideas/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 15:50:16 +0000 admin https://weddinglush.com/?p=1529 One of the hottest trends to hit the wedding world is allowing the groom to have his own 'groom's cake'. The purpose of the cake? To celebrate the groom, of course! Most brides will admit that their wedding was for the most part, if not entirely, all about them, so having a groom's cake at the wedding is a good way to allow him to add his own personal touch to the day.

If you're stumped for ideas about what to get your groom for a cake, or you want to help him brainstorm, here are some of the best ideas for groom's cakes out there:

The Superhero Cake

If your groom loves his superheroes, go all out and have a special superhero groom's cake made just for him. The cake can either be cut out in the shape of his favorite superhero (or villain), or it can be the superhero's emblem, or you can even have a creative 3D superhero cake made for him.

Some ideas for superhero groom's cakes include:

  • The Hulk
  • Batman
  • Captain America
  • The Flash

The Sports Cake

If your groom has a favorite sport, why not celebrate that by having a cake made to resemble something of his favorite sport' Some great ideas include having a 3D cake made that looks like a baseball diamond, or a cake that is shaped like a rugby or football. You can also have the cake made to look like his favorite player of all time!

The Movie Cake

So your groom is a bit of a movie buff. Surprise him with a cake made out to reflect one of his favorite flicks of all time! Star Wars fans may appreciate a cake made to look like Darth Vader's mask or Jabba the Hut. Godfather fans may like tiered cakes, with each cake reflecting a different Godfather movie. Get creative and see what different ideas you can come up with.

The Video Game Cake

A lot of grooms absolutely love their Xbox or their PlayStation, so why not have a cake created to look like these popular game consoles' The more 'old school' gamers may appreciate a cake that is crafted to look like an Atari or an arcade video game. If you include the consoles, you can have these be different flavors or have different icing flavors, or you can have a pile of his favorite games (made out of cake, of course) sitting next to the console.

The Puzzle Lover

Whether his game is sudoku, word searches or a crossword puzzle, you can have a cake created to look like any of these games. Be extra creative and include his favorite cup of coffee, beer, or snack sitting next to the game with his trusty pencil.

The Fisherman

One of the most creative groom's cake ideas is the fisherman's tackle box. Creative cakeries will even be able to create it so that the lid or the top of the cake can be lifted up and down, just like a real tackle box. Inside the box you should have your husbands favorite goodies tucked away in there, such as a bag of chips, the TV remote, and a bottle of beer.

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The Best of the Different Wedding Desserts https://weddinglush.com/the-best-of-the-different-wedding-desserts/ https://weddinglush.com/the-best-of-the-different-wedding-desserts/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 15:38:59 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1524 The wedding cake may not be your thing, or maybe you want to offer your guests an alternative treat on your big day. If you're trying to figure out what desserts to have, it's time to start making a list and choosing your favorites.

How to Come Up with Desserts

The first thing to think about is what you like and that are recognized as a treat that may be associated with 'you'. This may include:

  • Is there a particular cultural dessert that you enjoy' Or is there a dessert that speaks true to the region of the world you live in?
  • What desserts do you order when you go out to eat' Does one place have a particular dessert that another establishment has that you are just dying to share with your guests?
  • Think back to your childhood years. What sorts of candies and other sweet treats were you favorite' Salt water taffy, favorite candy bars, and even sour gummy candies are all top favorites amongst brides and grooms (and the guests!).
  • If you're into comfort food, think about what sorts of food you enjoy. Are sundaes your gig' Or maybe a delectable brownie with nuts is your absolute favorite. Even something as simple as milk and cookies is a fun idea to have as a wedding day dessert.
  • For the globe trotters out there, this is the time where you can incorporate some of your favorite treats from abroad! Think about what sorts of treats you really enjoyed throughout your worldly travels and see if there are any local establishments who will be able to make these for you. Or if your favorite dessert on the road was something from a national convenience store, you can add those to your dessert menu too.

How to Serve the Desserts

Everyone knows how a wedding cake is served at a wedding, but how do you serve a chocolate bar' Or a sundae' One of the favorite ways to serve dessert are on little trays that are passed through the crowd, just as you would expect hors d'oeuvres to be served during cocktail hour.

Another option is to have a 'dessert table'. You can easily add some fancy decorations and set up the table so that it matches the theme of your wedding day, and so that it also tastefully displays your sweet treats.

For the ice cream lovers out there, you can either choose to have an ice cream station where people can stop buy and choose their own toppings and flavor of ice cream, or you can have an ice cream cart similar to those you see during the summer for sidewalk vendors. Get creative! Choosing an alternative dessert affords you that right.

Do I Need a Wedding Cake?

As weddings become more and more modern, wedding cakes are becoming increasingly pass. Don't feel as if you have to have a wedding cake simply because everyone else does; do your wedding your way!

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Stocking up your Own Bar at your Wedding Reception https://weddinglush.com/stocking-up-your-own-bar-at-your-wedding-reception/ https://weddinglush.com/stocking-up-your-own-bar-at-your-wedding-reception/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 15:30:31 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1520 If you are thinking of hosting your own bar at your reception, congratulations! You are well on your way to saving potentially hundreds of dollars that you can otherwise spend elsewhere. Before you tempt the idea of hosting your own bar, you will have to consider these things:

  • Will the venue allow for you to have your own open bar' Or do they have one that you must use?
  • You will probably need to obtain a liquor license in order to serve alcohol in a reception venue. Will you be able to obtain one?
  • Unless someone you know of is a bartender, you will have to hire one on yourself. There are a lot of 'freelance' bartenders on there, check out local ads in newspapers, online, or even visit a few bars and see if any of their bartenders are interested.

If you have all of those things covered, then it's time to start thinking about how much alcohol you will need for your guests. Experienced wedding bartenders will be able to give you a pretty good idea of how much you'll need of what, but it's still a good idea to prepare yourself mentally and financially for the costs. What you will generally need are as follows:

  • Beer: 5-6 Cases
  • Red wine: 2 cases
  • White wine: 3.5 cases
  • Gin: 2-3 liters
  • Scotch: 2 liters
  • Tequila: 1 liter
  • Rum: 1 liter
  • Whiskey: 1 liter
  • Bourbon: 1 liter
  • Dry vermouth: 1 bottle
  • Sweet vermouth: 1 bottle
  • OPTIONAL: Champagne: 1-2 cases

The amount of liquor listed above is an average need for a 100 guest reception. Different factors should be taken into consideration, such as how many people actually drink alcohol. There are some families who do not drink, or who may only have a glass of wine or champagne for your toast. Then there are other families who are reputable drinkers who you know will probably well exceed the alcohol listed above. For instance, if your side of the family just can't seem to get enough of scotch, consider adding on an extra liter or two.

Here's something else to consider: What kind of bar are you going to have' While the 'open bar' is still the most popular form, as expenses rise, brides and grooms are looking at other alternatives. Some alternatives include:

  • The Limited Bar: This usually includes all you can drink beer and wine, and maybe one mixed drink or a signature cocktail. You can also limit the time in which this alcohol is served, such as offering it only during cocktail hour, during toasts, and for an hour after dinner. Another option that many brides and grooms are choosing is to have servers serve the drinks to people directly so they can't simply go up to the bar and get as much as they want
  • The Ticket Bar: You can hand out a set number of tickets to each guest per night, with each ticket representing one drink. Two to three tickets is usually a fair quantity. If anyone wants any more than that, then the expense is on them.
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Sibling Rivalry and your Wedding https://weddinglush.com/sibling-rivalry-and-your-wedding/ https://weddinglush.com/sibling-rivalry-and-your-wedding/#comments Wed, 08 Dec 2010 15:13:17 +0000 galleca https://weddinglush.com/?p=1514 You know your sister almost as well as you know yourself. If you're reading this, chances are you suspect that you may have a bit of sister-trouble during the days leading up to your wedding, and maybe even on the day of. Your sister may be the 'whiner', or she may be the careless 'indifferent' one, but that doesn't mean that she's a lost cause. Here are some tips for you on how to get your sister more involved and more engaged in the wedding festivities.

The Whiner

All your life you have been dealing with this girl who wants everything that you have, even if she doesn't deserve it. Self entitlement may be high in this one, and she may always think that she should have exactly what you have (if not even better!). Though some sisters grow up and out of this when they reach adulthood, there are always those few who just never seem to get past it.

You may be rolling your eyes and feel completely fed up at this point, but don't give up hope yet. Start off by paying extra attention to your sister and talk about what she's doing. Make an effort to recognize and congratulate her on her own achievements. Make sure that your parents and any mutual friends are doing likewise too. This will often quell a mild to moderate whiner.

If you have a strong whiner at home who just will not be appeased with extra attention, then you need to sit down and have a real heart to heart with her. Tell her that she is important to you and that you do care for her, but remind her that this is your wedding day. You need her attention and her support since this isn't easy for you either. If your sister isn't married yet, let it be well known that you expect all eyes to be on her on her wedding day too.

The Indifferent One

You're happy, excited, stressed out, and anxious. So what does your sister do' Shrug her shoulders or maybe she doesn't even have any reaction at all. You ask for her opinion and she keeps her eyes trained on her laptop computer screen. You're in the middle of talking about reception venues, her phone rings, so she answers it and walks out of the room.

This 'closed up shut down' behavior is usually the result of hurt, and is not a sign for a lack of love or care. The best thing to do is to approach the topic when you have calmed down and when you no longer feel hurt by her seeming lack of concern and attention. Make sure that when you speak to her, you are not placing blame; rather, you simply explain how you feel, such as 'When I was talking to you about wedding venues yesterday and you answered your cell phone, I was hurt. I really wanted and need your opinion.' You can even follow up with a complimentary note such as, 'You're better at this than I am!' If she still seems solid as stone, don't give up. Continue to ask her to be a part of things and let her know how you feel. You may have a situation where she will blow up and explain why she's been behaving the way she has, but you can then work on solving the issue together.

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