After the Honeymoon: How to Deal

November 29th, 20102:11 pm


After the Honeymoon: How to Deal

A lot of couples believe that the honeymoon phase of their relationship will never die. They are just so in love and cannot bear to be without one another that to believe that their relationship will ever turn into something else is unforeseeable.  If you are like 99.9% of most relationships however, it’s important to recognize early and even before marriage that the honeymoon will undoubtedly end.  There will come a time when you won’t spend all day lazing around in bed with one another, reading the newspaper, watching TV and cuddling (or doing something else).  A time will come when you two will have a disagreement, and then another, and then another…

All because the honeymoon is over doesn’t mean that the marriage is over too.  The honeymoon phase ending simply means that you have moved into another phase in the marriage cycle, a phase that will involve you two planning your future lives together, such as buying a home, having children, career aspirations and retirement.  Here are some things that you need to do and keep in mind once the honeymoon period is over.

You should Still Date

One thing that a lot of couples forget to do after a while is to go on dates!  When you move in after a marriage, you often end up spending so much time together in your own home that you forget to spend time doing things with one another outside of the home too. Try to keep the romance alive by having weekly “date nights”.  Go see a movie, try out a new restaurant, or even go for a walk together to go and get some ice cream.  It’s important to continue to do things with one another after the honeymoon phase is over so that you still stay connected and continue to have fun with on another.

You should Still Look Good

One thing that a lot of newly married couples do is that they forego their personal maintenance.  You used to bother shaving, you used to bother doing your hair, and you used to bother wearing make up on the weekends.  Keep up these routines and don’t let marriage stop you from keeping up with your personal maintenance.  Still take care to keep your weight where it should be and dress nicely (unless you’re painting your new house together, then you’re excused).  You want to still appear to be appealing to your partner, so make every effort to still be attractive and put the effort in.  It will definitely pay off in the bedroom later on.

Make Gestures

Even the smallest of gestures will go a long way.  If your spouse does the dishes, thank them for it.  If your spouse decided to do the laundry, thank them for it and ask what you can do in return.  This sort of give and take that takes place will help allay any feelings of resentment or anger that often grows between couples.  Everyone just wants to feel a bit appreciated every now and then; go all out sometimes and make dinner, buy flowers, or treat your guy to a day of golfing or a night of football.